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There are many different rumors and stories that circulate regarding separation and divorce, some of which are true and some of which that are not. The Huffington Post posted an article to their website debunking some of these myths called “Five Custody Myths Separating Parents Need to Know.”
The first myth disparaged was that “mothers always win”. While mothers may have been particularly favored in the past, the more recent trend is towards joint or shared custody between both parents. Additionally, there are even cases where the father is awarded primary or sole custody. Many state laws have been enacted to favor more equality for both the father and the mother in custody cases. Mothers can still be awarded primary custody, but it is not nearly as set in stone as it may have once been.
“Taking antidepressants will hurt your case” is another myth that has since been disproven. In actuality, it is the reverse that is more accurate. It is not uncommon for a parent who is going through a separation or divorce proceedings to suffer from depression. Getting treatment for their depression is actually looked at as a positive thing by the court, as the Huffington Post notes that parents who are being treated for depression are looked upon more favorable than parents who are not being treated for their symptoms.
“We get along great, we do not need a schedule” is another fable that the Huffington Post debunked. By creating a detailed schedule for the entire year, including holidays, school days, weekends and school breaks, and summers, you save yourself a lot of hassle when an issue does eventually arise. Save yourself the trouble and plan out a schedule.
“It’s better to fight for my kids than give an inch” is an additional myth that has been disproven. Cooperating with your spouse can actually be a much more beneficial way to handle custody issues, both in terms of finances, efficiency, and effectiveness.
“If the other parent doesn’t pay child support, I can withhold the children” is the final myth that has been demystified. Support and custody are two different and separate issues. If a parent engages in withholding their children, the court will not look to favorable on that parent, and it could hurt your case.
If you are going through a divorce or a custody proceeding and want to talk to someone knowledgeable and experienced, contact the Law Offices of Jay D. Raxenberg to schedule a complementary consultation!