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A recent article published by New York Post, titled “Marriages ‘uncoupled’ by unrealistic expectations-not biology,” reports that high levels of divorce can be explained because our biology and psychology are simply not set up to be in monogamous relationship for four, five or six decades.
The article takes note of Gweneth Paltro’s recent divorce from her husband Chris Martin. Paltro was interviewed and cited her favorite guru Dr. Habibi Sadeghi on Conscious Uncoupling:
“For the vast majority of history, humans lived relatively short lives — and accordingly, they weren’t in relationships with the same person for 25 to 50 years,” they write. “Modern society adheres to the concept that marriage should be lifelong; but when we’re living three lifetimes compared to early humans, perhaps we need to redefine the construct.”
The article goes on to quote Megan Laslocky, author of “Love Gone Wrong,” “Because fidelity is considered the barometer of a successful marriage, this means that a person is theoretically expected to have one sexual partner for about 50 years. This seems like a lot to expect of any human being — even the most honorable, ethical and moral.” The article goes on to discuss how our culture promotes the idea of spouses as “Soul mates” and that husband and wives increasingly depend on each other for everything.
The article ends with the premise that it may be time to expect a little less from our marriages, and if we are to expect them to be perfect we are only bound for disappointment.