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When you have children and you are going through a divorce, you must always remember that the children will always have their mother and father, even when the family becomes blended with new spouses and siblings. In a recent Huffington Post article, “What Kids With Divorced Parents Need To Remember,” Rebecca Ryan discusses her life growing up in a blended family and how she handled her parents’ divorce.
After Rebecca’s parents divorced, both quickly remarried. Now, twelve years after both parents remarried, she reflects on how “the biggest challenge is adjusting to having two separate places to call home and learning how to incorporate this new person in both homes into your daily lives.”
Rebecca notes that “we are all human, make mistakes, change our minds and change our life goals. My parent’s – and your parent’s – just went in different directions with their lives somewhere down the line. Then they remarried and formed a blended family. Don’t hate your parents for that…Try to be happy that they have found happiness in their lives.”
Children of a marriage will always be “ours,” never “mine” or “yours,” and it is important to remind children that during and throughout the divorce process. This should also be told to the children if and when you choose to eventually remarry, because “it’s never [their] fault as a child of divorce.”
“Communication is key to solving stress in blended families.” Rebecca says that she relies heavily on her parents and step-parents’ advice because she is now able to “communicate, love and have fun with [her] parents, step-parents and the rest of [her] extended blended family.”
Are you considering filing for divorce or separation? When a couple decides to dissolve their marriage, there are many aspects that need to be addressed including child custody and financial support, parenting time/visitation, spousal and equitable distribution, to name a few. These are subjects that Jay D. Raxenberg, P.C. has gained a great deal of matrimonial experience over the last two decades in Supreme and Family Court. Please call (516) 491-0565 or toll free at (888) 543-4867 to arrange your initial complimentary consultation.